The reason so many of us fail at our resolutions is because we doom ourselves in creating them. We only commit enough effort in coming up with our resolutions to give us something to say at parties or work. "I want to lose weight", "I want to stop smoking", "I want to exercise more" is about as much detail as we normally put into them. Those are not resolutions, they are feelings. And like other feelings they come and go with normal life.
Here are two ideas that might help you create a better New Year's Resolution and succeed at it.
Be very specific.
We are good at knowing what we want to do, but the key to a good resolution is asking yourself, "What are you going to do about it?" Anyone can say, "I want to lose weight", but to lose weight...what are you going to do about it? Anyone can say, "I want to stop smoking", but to stop smoking...what are you going to do about it? Try adding milestones and smaller goals that commit you further to your resolution. Maybe something that sounds like this..."My New Year's Resolution is to smoke fewer packs of cigarettes every month until I quick." Or something like this..."My New Year's Resolution is to encourage 3 people a week at my work for the next 6 months." "My New Year's Resolution is to give an increasing amount to charity each month." Those are resolutions that show you are committed from the very start.
Share your resolution with someone else and have them hold you accountable.
Have a friend ask you on the first of every month how you're doing in your goal. Have them set reminders on their phone or computer, so that you are assured that encouragement each month.
Accountability is a necessity for those of us who struggle to self-motivate. Things we enjoy doing really take very little motivation, but when we are trying to change a very hard part of our life...often times, takes the encouragement of another.
Good luck this next year. Let me know how it goes.